June, 2026

What’s Going On…

"You gotta lean in" was the response from a client when I shared what feeling undervalued felt like to me. I started to wonder, "Is there a place where I could lean in; double down on ownership of me?" What I found was not value but how I am received. I'm regularly projected upon regarding intent. I communicate what I see in the best way that I know how. And the truth is, it sometimes puts people off. Somehow I had paired value with reception from others. But the two are not linked. I can still have value even if I am misunderstood. What I truly want is reception but when I link reception to value, I lose connection to myself.

Survival programming has come to an end. We simply can't rely on it any longer. Self sacrifice for safety, certainty, love, recognition, belonging and connection has taken its final breath. We are on our own to navigate through our lives. Other people can offer ideas, maybe even motivation but ultimately we are on our own to give ourselves what we desperately need and want. First steps are identifying what those needs and wants are. Beyond the level of survival, what do you really want more than anything else?